Why I decided to use my real name
In the introduction to Moonstone, I briefly mentioned why I decided to use my real name, instead of the alias, Kya. I wanted to explain in more detail the motivations behind the change. 🙃
There is a freedom in using your real name. You are openly sharing yourself, declaring your identity and saying ‘this is me’. *
The name Kya was chosen around 2004(ish) and used on my blog wishless.org in 2005. I made the decision that I wanted to use an alias because I didn’t feel very confident about myself and many other people were using a pseudonym. There was a time before the rise of social media where it was common to be cautious of the information that you shared online (oh how the times have changed 😂!).
When I chose the name Kya all the way back in 2004/2005, I felt very insecure about myself. I didn’t feel comfortable sharing my thoughts, words and images with other people. Kya was a way for me to grow, connect and begin an exciting journey into blogging, writing, website design and digital art.
The way that I discovered the name Kya, began as a simple search for a name. I wanted to keep the K from Kassy and started searching on a lot of baby name and name meaning websites. It took some time, but I eventually had a short list, asked a few friends what they thought and decided to use Kya.
If I had not used the alias, I am not sure if I would have been so open to creativity and may not have refined my skills in vector art, website design and photography (still have to work on the writing 😅).
👩🏻 My Real Name
The decision to use my real name was one that took time to make. Over the past year, I had been considering the change, and I guess, was waiting for the right moment.
One of the significant influences in using my real name has been a slow change of attitude. I am tip-toeing my way to learning how to like myself, and part of that process is being me, without any other name. Maybe I am finally starting to ‘grow up’? 😂
I believe that university has also been a tremendous part of this. The knowledge I have gathered has given me so much more confidence in my abilities. I feel much less insecure about sharing my work because I see it as evidence of a continued commitment to growth and understanding.
Lastly, would be my books. The previous two books I have written used my real name, and I felt that there was an apparent disconnect between them and my blog. Now I can easily share them, and there won’t be any confusion!
✨ The Future
When you have formed an attachment with a name for over 14/15 years, it does feel a part of your identity. Saying goodbye to Kya may take some time, not only for myself but also for my friends that have known me as such.
I am hopeful in the future that using my real name won’t limit the amount of creative work that I share, and might be a motivator instead! I would like to one day share a picture of myself. It could take a little more time, as I am not 100% comfortable just yet. 💖
💬 What about you?
If you have gone through the transition of using an alias to your real name (or vice-versa), I would love to hear your story in the comments. 😍
* This was a personal choice to use my real name and I can understand why other people may feel comfortable using another name. It is a unique and individual experience. If you identify with another name more than your own, it’s great that you have been able to forge that connection!